Saw those interesting tips on a magazine and find how true it is to maintain a relationship that is long and might appear dull. It takes two hands to clap, to maintain a r/s requires two person to put in effort and heart.
It's always easy to get along with each other but hard to live together.
Thus i'm going to blog these points down to share with you guys.
(gosh.. i'm still blogging away... time to mug for exams again, enjoy reading)
Relight The Fire
If you have been dating for a few years and somehow the sparks in your romance have fizzled out a little. Or so you feel. Don't fret! Re-ignite the passion in your relationship with these tips:
1. Remember those memorable moments:
From time to time reminisce your first date or your first holiday. Little reminders now and then will help to reinforce your relationship and remind both of you what you love about each other.
(Don't say you cant do it since its now the new age world with all the gadgets like digi cam and handphones)
2. Make time to care for each other:
Nevertheless how hectic life are, remember to make your loved one feel being your priority, esp if he/she needs help or encouragement. Perhaps to schedule one specific day of the week where both of you can catch up with each other about what's happening at home or at office. It doesn't matter where, neither does it require to be a high class restaurant. Maybe Breakfast at kopitiam also can.
3. Compliment each other:
After going out for a few years, its understandable to assume that everything should run like clockwork. Avoid taking ur bf/gf for granted by expressing your love and affection. Sweet gestures once a while can go a long way. Be generous with your compliments.
Compliments must be genuine and based on your bf/gf actions, this way can reflect to him/her that you are paying attention to and respect him/her.
Avoid critising your partner whenever he/she makes a mistake e.g. having to postpone an appointment due to a last minute teleconference call in the office etc.
4. Get to know each other's friends:
Try to appreciate your partner's friendsby showing a genuine interest in wanting to know them and their partners better. You don't have to go all the way to impress them but it helps if you give them the impression that you can co-exist on the same level with them.
If your partner has friends of opposite sex avoid getting jealous unless you feel the reason is justified. If so let him/she know about the situation so that both can discuss way out together.
5. Pick up a new hobby together:
Its hard to accomodate each other's interest, so can consider picking up something new like learning a hobby or attending a seminar.
This way allows you to experience and enjoy the journey of discovery together, able to strengthen your ability to understand, trust and care for each other.
6. Be spontaneous:
When a r/s becomes predictable and boring, learn to include an unexpected twist to the routine. Little surprises will help up the excitement factor instantly.
If you have to brainstorm for a romantic adventure, just do it.
If he/she is travelling for business, place little notes with romantic messages in unexpected spots in the luggage here you know they will be found.
To maximise the impact of the spontaneity, learn to time your surprises with an important occasion, such as anniversaries and birthdays.
7. Share your expectations:
Remember those days when you started going out together. how you could talk for hours on the phone, message or email each other about the most trivial incident?
Keeping the communication constant and open allows for couple to understand each other's expectations and aspirations i.e. how you are striving towards these goals and where your r/s figures in the pictures. This prevents misunderstandings and disagreements on important issues such as career change, staying with inlaws and starting a family.
8. Set a common goal and work towards it:
Whether it is holidaying at an exotic destination or saving up for an apartment, having a common goal will help pull a couple closer together and throw up new insights to each other's qualities. This allow you to understand and appreciate each other better.
Most importantly, having a goal can drive your r/ss. If goals are different, learn to compromise through effective communication. Discuss and plan ways to accomplish these goals since goals change over time.
I've achieved some with my partner, how many have you???
